Abuse is the mistreatment of someone that results in harm. There are different types of abuse. Domestic abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse are but a few.
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is when one person mistreats another who’s in their household, family, or has a dating/marriage relationship with them. Domestic abuse can involve children as well. Mistreatment (abuse) comes in different forms. It could be bodily injury or the threat of injury (physical abuse), words or actions that damage someone’s sense of well-being and independence (emotional abuse), forced sexual contact with a person without their consent (sexual abuse). It can also come in the form of economic or psychological abuse. This includes any behaviours that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone.
Is physical abuse also called domestic abuse?
The terms are often used interchangeably, but physical abuse is one form of domestic violence. A force that hurts someone in our household, family or relationship.
Here’s what is considered to be physical abuse:
Pushing or shoving
Grabbing to restrict movement (stopping a partner from leaving, for example)
Hitting with a fist or object
Using a knife or gun
There's a progression of violence from top to the bottom of the above list, but any answer that is "yes" to any one of these can be considered physical abuse. Threatening one or more of them, even if they are not carried out, is considered domestic abuse.
Psychological abuse can take many forms and can have a detrimental impact on individuals, relationships and families. At Clinical Consultation & Counselling in Oshawa, Ontario, we offer Psychological Abuse Therapy to provide those affected with the opportunity to build awareness, process experiences, discuss protective safety strategies, gain support from our team of Registered Social Workers and Psychotherapists, and develop healthy life practices for their growth journey. Our Psychological Abuse Therapy provides an understanding of the causes and effects of psychological abuse without judgment or invalidation. We provide compassionate therapeutic care for your individualized needs. Together we will work to help you recover from the trauma caused by Psychological Abuse and learn healthier ways of responding to difficult situations in life.
What is emotional abuse?
According to the Department of Justice of Canada, "emotional abuse happens when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten, or isolate someone or take away their self-respect."
Abuse can occur even if no one is touched.
There are dozens of examples of emotional abuse, here are just a few:
Controlling your partner’s time, space, money or thoughts
Controlling your partner’s choices such as what they wear
Monitoring where your partner goes
Monitoring what your partner spends money on
Isolating your partner by not letting them see or talk to others
Making all of the decisions without your partner’s input or consideration of their needs
Accusing your partner of flirting, having an affair, or being unfaithful when there is little or no evidence they have done so
Getting angry or resentful when your partner is successful in a job or hobby
Intimidating your partner by making them afraid, including breaking things, punching walls, slamming doors, or throwing objects
There are others, as I mentioned earlier, like ‘Gaslighting’ (saying things that are designed to make your partner feel “crazy” or “stupid.”). Another is punishing your partner by refusing to talk to them or by withholding affection.
Sexual touching or sexual activity without consent
Continued sexual contact when asked to stop
Forcing someone to commit unsafe or humiliating sexual acts
All sexual contact with anyone without consent is a crime. This includes sexual touching or forcing sexual activity on a spouse, a common-law partner or a dating partner. Even when married, a spouse cannot be forced to have sexual contact.
We have professionally trained therapists to help you or your child through abuse-related issues.
Clinical Consultation & Counselling provides a path for you to experience being treated as an individual and have your story about abuse listened to. Abuse is also traumatic and often has a deep impact on our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours about ourselves and others.
We know how to understand client needs, and we can answer questions you may have about abuse.